HOW WOMEN MANIPULATE MEN

By: Gideon Kapuka

When a woman is manipulating you, it’s actually pretty genius. She tells you exactly what you want to hear and behaves how you expect her to. She’s basically a professional in giving you the illusion of everything you’ve ever wanted. But here’s the kicker—her actions aren’t motivated by loyalty to you; they’re motivated by loyalty to herself. Shocking, right? But most men don’t notice that little detail because, hey, they’re too busy loving the results. After all, who cares about how the results came about when they’re getting exactly what they want? It’s like getting the prize without ever checking if the box has a hole in it.

She reels them in with a few "perfect" gestures and then, slowly but surely, starts getting them to compromise just a little more each day. But who’s paying attention to the fine print? Certainly not most men. They don’t care about the character of the woman; they only care about what she’s doing for them. How she looks at them, how she treats them, how she makes them feel like they’re the most important person in her life—until, of course, she moves on to the next conquest. They’ve convinced themselves that obsessing over her “body count” means they’re somehow vetting her character. It’s laughable, really. They don’t even stop to think, “Hmm, what’s her actual character like?” 

How does she treat her family? Does she handle her responsibilities like an adult? How does she make money—is she even capable of making decisions on her own, or is she just leeching off someone else? How does she treat people when there's nothing to gain from it? What kind of friends does she keep around? Is she surrounded by people who support and uplift her—or is she just collecting people who can do something for her? Who is she when you’re not around to witness her little act? What life did she live before you waltzed into it? Does she take any responsibility for her past actions, or does she blame everyone but herself? 

But no, they don’t care about any of that. Why bother when they can just sit back, get played, and then cry about it later? And of course, they’ll say, "But she was perfect in the beginning!” Oh really? Let’s be honest, she was playing you from the very start. But hey, keep telling yourself she was just that perfect. It’s much easier than facing the fact that you missed every red flag because you were too busy chasing a fantasy. 

Take Gideon, for instance. When he spoke about Ruth, he didn’t gush about how well she treated him. He didn’t just say, "Wow, she was so respectful to me, so clearly she's the one." No, he paid attention to the bigger picture. He noted how she was taking care of her mother-in-law, how she handled her duties, how she made decisions that spoke to her character. It wasn’t just about what she did for him—it was about who she was as a person. But men today? They can’t even fathom that. It’s almost tragic.

So here’s the real kicker: Maybe you should just stay single for real. Seriously. Men are so lazy when it comes to thinking about who they’re getting involved with. They’ll chase a shiny object, only to find out it’s made of plastic. It’s not that hard to be discerning, but most are too comfortable being fooled. Maybe it's time to stop looking for the quick fix and start actually thinking before getting into relationships.