DON’T EVER TRUST LOVE THAT IS NOT TESTED

Ah, love. It’s the stuff that dreams are made of, right? We swoon over it, idolize it, and make it out to be this perfect, effortless thing. But here’s the inconvenient truth no one tells you: love that hasn’t been tested is as fragile as a glass slipper—pretty, but bound to shatter. And when it’s someone you love who’s finally “made it” in life—like, they’re suddenly wealthy, successful, or famous—that’s when you start seeing the cracks. Love needs to be tested, and if you’ve been along for the ride when someone comes from humble beginnings, and suddenly starts flying high, things can get... complicated.

The Humble Beginnings - Love Before The Big Break

Let’s paint a picture. You’re in love with someone who’s been through it all—the tough times, the struggle, the late-night ramen dinners, the “savings account” that’s really just a dream. You stick together because you get each other. You were both in the trenches, fighting to make ends meet, keeping each other’s spirits up when things seemed impossible. Back then, love was simple. It was honest. It was real.

But there’s something about a dream that’s realized—about that “big break”—that changes the dynamic. Suddenly, you’re not just in love with someone struggling to pay bills; you’re in love with someone who’s now pulling in a paycheck big enough to buy a house that you’ve only seen in magazines. And that’s where things get... tricky.

When They “Make It” and You’re Still the Same

Here’s where the real test of love begins. It’s easy to love someone when you’re both in the same boat—struggling together, facing the same challenges. But when one person levels up while the other remains stuck in the same old grind, that’s where things can get a little rocky. It’s like you’re still wearing the same old shoes, and your partner’s now wearing designer sneakers. And while they’re living the high life, you’re stuck wondering if they’ll forget you in the process.

Because let’s be honest, people change when they get money—and that’s not a judgment; it’s just a fact. The difference is, some people change for the better, and others forget where they came from. And you’re left standing there wondering: “Is this still the person I fell in love with? Or is this just someone who’s using me as an accessory to their new shiny life?”

The Test of Love - Will They Still Love You When They’ve "Made It"?

When someone you love starts to change because they’ve achieved success, it’s like watching them go from Clark Kent to Superman, and you’re still in your pajamas. You know, it’s cool that they’ve got the fame, the money, the new car, and the fancy vacation plans. But here’s the question: Do they still see you the same way they did before? Do they still value the same things? Or have they found new people who fit into their new world better?

This is where love gets tested in the most brutal way possible. You can’t truly know if someone loves you until they’re in a position where they no longer need you to survive. When life was hard, you were essential. You were the support system, the encouragement, the one who kept them grounded. But now that they’ve “made it,” it’s easy for them to forget that love isn’t just about what you can get when things are good—it’s about sticking with someone when they have nothing to offer but their heart

The Harsh Reality of Changing Dynamics

Oh, and let’s not even get started on how much harder it is when money and success come into play. Suddenly, they’ve got a whole new social circle—rich friends, business partners, influencers, you name it. And while you’re trying to keep up with rent, they’re buying yachts and throwing parties that are so exclusive you’re not even on the guest list. The minute someone’s life is on a different track, the gap between who you were and who they are can become a chasm. And that’s when the cracks in the relationship start to show.

Because, here’s the thing—love that’s been tested through thick and thin will survive these changes. If they still value you when the stakes are high, if they still remember the person you were together before success came knocking, you’ve got something worth holding onto. But if they forget about you in favor of their new fancy friends, or treat you like a relic from their past, that’s not love, my friend—that’s a one-way ticket to heartache.

Trusting Love That Has Survived The Test of Time

So, what’s the takeaway? Simple: If your love survives the highs and lows, the poverty and prosperity, then it’s a love you can trust. True love isn’t about who’s got the bigger paycheck or who’s driving the flashiest car—it’s about who’s still standing by your side when the ride gets bumpy, when you’re both navigating changes that could rip you apart.

It’s easy to say “I love you” when everything is good. But it’s those moments when life gets complicated—whether it’s one person making it big while the other stays grounded—that show you who’s truly in it for the long haul. Tested love is not about being there when it’s easy; it’s about showing up when it’s not.

So, if your love has been tested, and both of you still stand strong despite all the success and chaos that life throws your way, that’s a love worth trusting. And if not? Well, here’s your sign to let go. Because in the end, love that hasn’t been tested will always leave you questioning: “Was it real? Or was it just a phase?”