Make Sure You’re Taking Advice from the Right People (Because Everyone’s Suddenly a Life Coach)

Welcome to the age where everyone’s an expert, especially on things they’ve never actually done. You’re broke? Someone who’s never had a job will tell you how to manage your finances. Your relationship’s on the rocks? Don’t worry, that one friend who’s never had a stable relationship will gladly offer a TED Talk on “knowing your worth.” We are literally drowning in advice from people who can’t swim.

Let’s be real: substance matters more than the source. Wisdom doesn’t always come in a suit, a degree, or a blue checkmark. Some of the best lessons I’ve ever learned came from people most wouldn’t even stop to listen to, the kind who don’t “network” but somehow know life. Because sometimes the most unfiltered truth comes from those who’ve been through the mud, not the ones still googling how to get dirty.

Now here’s the kicker: advice is just an option, not a commandment. Take some, all, or none, it’s still your life. The fine print nobody reads says you are responsible for the outcome. Life doesn’t come with an “easy” button. The best stuff, like peace, purpose, and stability, is locked behind a gate called risk. You want to win? You’ll have to get bruised for it. Just avoid the big blunders, like, I don’t know, killing someone or stealing (apparently those still count as “bad decisions”).

Everything else? Fair game. Everyone got where they are by living, stumbling, restarting, and faking confidence until it clicked. That’s literally the cheat code: live. Do what you gotta do.

Because here’s the truth: there’s a flood of opinions out there, and 99% of them come from people just as lost as you are. Facts 💯. Everyone wants to dictate your choices, play moral police, or quote Instagram philosophers. But at the end of the day, the only things you can really count on are your imaginary friends (they never argue) and yourself, the one person who actually knows what you want.

So, take what you need. Leave the rest. And when in doubt? Just smile, nod, and say, “I’ll think about it.”

Then do whatever the hell makes sense to you.

Location: Windhoek, Namibia

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