Namibians and Bedroom Conversations: Why Are We Still So Shy About Sex? 😅🇳🇦

Eish, let’s be honest for once hey. As Africans, we still get so uncomfortable when it comes to talking about sexual health. Even married couples act like it’s a top-secret mission 😭. Like ai man, why are we still shy to talk about something that literally created all of us? 😅

I’ve realized something serious though, a lot of young girls out here are engaging in sexual activities with zero knowledge, simply because mothers don’t talk to their daughters about it. And the fathers? Shuu, they’re even worse! They’d rather talk about soccer or politics than sit their sons down for a real chat about sexual health and responsibility. 🤦🏾‍♂️

So now the question is... where are our sons and daughters supposed to learn about sex and relationships? From TikTok? From that one naughty friend at school? Ai no man, we can do better. 🙄

Let’s talk today, open heart, no filters.

Gents:

You want to be intimate with your woman, but you’re shy to say it straight. So how do you drop the hint that you’re “in the mood”? 😏
Do you start washing dishes suddenly? Compliment her out of nowhere? Or maybe you just start playing “old school love songs” loud loud like you’re trying to summon the vibes? 😂

Ladies:

Now let’s talk. You’re in the mood, but you’re scared he’ll judge you if you make the first move. So what do you do? Do you just wait for him to notice? Or start giving him that look like “you better know what time it is” 😅😉

Because I keep hearing married women saying, “I can’t ask my man for a round, he’ll think I’m too forward or a slut.” Eish, are men really like that? Or is it just fear holding women back? 🤔

Let’s be real, especially in our Aawambo communities, sexual talk is treated like a taboo. We pretend it doesn’t exist until people start having problems in the bedroom , then suddenly everyone wants “prayer and counseling.” Ai man 😭

At the end of the day, sex and intimacy are part of healthy relationships. We just need to normalize talking about it. It doesn’t make you disrespectful, it makes you responsible.

So tell me, my people.... 

💬 Men, how do you hint when you’re in the mood?
💬 Women, do you still fear to initiate intimacy, or are we just holding ourselves back?


Location: Windhoek, Namibia

Comments

  1. Panduleni P November 1, 2025 at 9:21 PM

    This is real great, before I answer the question for the ladies, I first want also to add on how sex is known for in our communities. Just like you said a taboo something that must be hidden and no one dares to talk about in our parents lovely houses. It is soo bad that when a teenage young girl gets pregnant, that's when they question her, but when they saw that she is grown they did not educate her on everything including sex, because it's time for her also and they can't shy away from that fact that sex is one of the physiological need.

    How I wish parents could really do what is important rather than being caged in their traditional ways of doing things We have iniatives like Comprehensive Sexual Education that teaches about everything about a human being the changes, what comes with them and part of it things related to sex and what comes out of it, rather STis and others.

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  2. Panduleni P November 1, 2025 at 9:27 PM

    Back to the question, I personally believe that for a relationship to be called a good one effective communication must be the key. So, I have to communicate with my loved one about how I feel. If I want to eat that day I will let him know, so that he can also, understand me better. When you are quite not everytime that a person is luck to guess why maybe, so please communicate the same way you ask him for his money 💷😂no offense but ja, communication is crucial but it must be with mutual understanding.

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