THE HONEST IMPACT with Gideon Kapuka

Let us have the conversation that every man has had in his head but never out loud. You are sitting with your boys. Somebody asks, "So what kind of woman are you looking for?" And somebody else, without missing a beat, says, "His mother." And everybody laughs. And everybody knows exactly what he means. And nobody wants to explain it. Because it sounds strange. It sounds like something a therapist would charge you by the hour to unpack. But there is something underneath it that is real, and it is worth talking about honestly. The Love Language You Never Chose 🍼 Here is the uncomfortable truth. Some people's love language is not a personality trait. It is a function of what they craved and never got when they were growing up. If nobody ever held you, you might grow up craving affection. If nobody ever praised you, you might grow up chasing approval. If nobody ever showed up for you, you might grow up being drawn to people who show up, even if they show up badly. ...

Let me start with a truth that will either liberate you or offend you. Possibly both. Even if you die for people, they will still say you did not die well. Read that again. Slowly. Let it sink in. You can sacrifice everything. You can give your last cent. You can carry their burdens, wipe their tears, pay their bills, and show up for them at 3 AM when nobody else would. And when you are gone, when your body is in the ground and your name is being mentioned at the funeral, somebody will still be sitting in the back row whispering, "Mmm, but you know, he was not really that generous." Somebody will still find something to say. Somebody will still find something to criticise. Somebody will still find a way to reduce your entire life to a single flaw. And the crazy part? That is not a tragedy. That is just people. That is just the nature of the beast. So, if you cut your neck for people, they will still say you did not cut it well. That one sweet me. That one really, really sweet...